Self-confidence is your beliefs about your skills and abilities in handling challenging situations. It helps you reach your goals in the following ways:
It increases your motivation to approach great opportunities that may be challenging.
It keeps you going even when you are faced with failure.
It help you develop supportive relationships with others as you are less likely to be self-conscious and be more able to pay more able to attention to others.
It helps you to accept who you are so will be less likely to be to feel anxious or depressed.
There are several ways to help you boost your confidence:
1. Have self-compassion
Remember that having self-doubt is just being human. Not everyone has the privilege to grow up in an environment that supports development of self-confidence. And the challenges from our personal, work or school lives often can have negative impacts on our confidence. The first step to self-confidence is to appreciate that life can be hard, so do not criticise yourself for doubting yourself.
2. Revisit your values
Ask yourself what are some challenges that you have overcome in the past. What help you persevere even though it was hard? It may be your family, your work, your education, your friendship, your self-care. Recall how these values have motivated and sustained you. And think of other values that may give you strengths right now.
3. Review your doubt
What is the evidence that tells you that you are not good enough? How valid are they in the current situation? Remember that no two life experiences are identical. Ask yourself do you have valid reasons that you should doubt yourself. If you find that you doubts are valid, quickly move on to problem solving. If you are feeling low level of confidence despite having the skills and ability, set aside specific time to think about your fears. Examine the probability of bad things happening and how you can cope with them should they happen.
4. Taking actions
Moving out of our comfort zone is very important in building our self-confidence. If a person having low self-confidence refuses to work through challenges in life, he/she will remain stuck. Only if a person is willing to embrace possible failures and try again, he or she will get a chance to experience success and build confidence.
Start putting things into perspective, explore what are possible course of actions and support resources available to you. You do not have to do it alone. You may find that all you need is just some training courses or skills coaching.
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